Yesterday I Freaked My Husband Out
May 31, 2010 by admin - Jennifer
Filed under Jen's Journal
Started off as a beautiful day, until the rain came in. Both literally and figuratively.
We took the girls to see my mother-in-laws new place and she offered to watch them while Rob and I went out to lunch. Seeing as she is in a new area we used our GPS to find her house and away went drove….
Straight into a nasty little storm, so it took about 20 minutes longer to get there because I couldn’t see to drive so I was going like 2 mph. Cleared up right before we got there. We go in to see her place, which is beautiful by the way, and say goodbye to the girls. We get in the car and have no idea where the nearest place was to eat so we looked up a local Friday’s and programmed it into the GPS to go. We leave, make a right out of the area and am then told to merge right. No problem, I usually just listen to the GPS and do what it says.
Stupid move…..
See it took us onto a on ramp to a highway, and not just any highway, a toll highway! I have no change, was in the Chevy which doesn’t have my sticker for paid tolls. So what happened next? I quietly pulled over to the side of the road and proceeded to…
Scared the living you know what out of my husband. I start blubbering about not having change in the car or my purse, I start yelling at the GPS for taking us that way, I start saying I can’t take anymore and just bite my tongue and try to stop crying because I see him looking at me like I am some sort of freak, which at that point I was. I try to back up, but traffic kept coming. I decide that I am going to run the toll, then remembered it isn’t my car. But I really had no choice, so I pull up to the toll, ready to throw in the 20 cents I had scrounged up and see that there are change machines next to it. I rip a dollar bill out of my husband’s hand, got out of the car because I had pulled too far up, tell everyone I am sorry for holding them up (they probably thought I was a loon too) got change, and left.
My husband hasn’t said two words at this point. I make some comment like “They could of had signs saying something like: No Change No Worries use the machines”, would of saved me a nervous breakdown. Then I got mad that I was literally on that damn toll road for 2.4 seconds before I got off it. We found the restaurant and were seated.
Then my husband, the poor guy, leans over and asks, “Are you alright?”
I didn’t even know what to say. I didn’t know I had that coming. I didn’t know what was wrong. So, I started to say I didn’t know, but then one thing came to mind, then another and another. Things had apparently been building up. I found I was upset with a lot of things, things like…
- I am upset that my son is growing up and doing his own thing now (I know that is what is supposed to happen but it still saddens me.)
- I am stressed from moving
- I am stressed about issues my family is having (not my immediate but my extended)
- I am missing my husband, we never have time together anymore
- I am missing my baby, my last little girl has grown up so fast!
- I am over worked and under paid, something that has been weighing heavy on my mind
- I am tired of the mindless pitches I am getting from people who are asking me to work for free, something that will end now.
- I am dreading turning 40 next year (still can’t put my finger on why this is upsetting me so much)
So see, things have been building up, they just weren’t all on my mind at once until right at that very minute, when I was sitting in a car on the side of the road with my husband. Who by the way sat there at the restaurant and was my shoulder to cry on, my ear to listen and my rock when he offered advice. I love him so very much, and only hope he sticks around through my next Cruella DeVille moment 
Oh yeah, and when we went to go back and get the girls we made it back to her place in under 2 minutes. How is that possible you ask? We ended up right around the corner, if I would have taken a left instead of the right the GPS told us to do, I would have seen it was right there and none of that would have happened.
Everything happens for a reason….or so they say.
I’m laughing with you, not at you, after reading that post! I’m sorry you have so much weighing on your mind right now, and I’m glad you have a strong husband to help lift up some of that weight. And now I’m scared to use our new GPS–lol
I am so sorry you are going through so much…turning 40 was like another day for me I think 50 is what is going to be my breaker but you have to breathe hun and take it as it comes…one day at a time…my husband and i don’t spend much time together either and it hurts me too…not much I can help you with there….sorry i am struggling…we are currently moving too i know i sound like a broken record but i just want you to know i can understand SOME of your issues….i will pray for you….hang in there….but take one day at a time something i have to learn to do also lol there another broken record…ttyl
All I can say to that post is….I am right there with ya sister. I have the same thing going on and I am at my breaking point. I feel so overwhelmed that I am losing it. My husband keeps asking me what drug am I on cause I don’t even make sense in my blubbering.
1) My health is deteriorating so quickly and the horrible diagnoses just keep coming. I am trying to manage all the meds and I HATE taking meds, not to mention the 6 shots of insulin a day.
2) My son, too, has grown up so fast and now that he is 18 his problems are not just a scrape knee anymore. Got a 16 yr old daughter ready to drive and that is just scary.
The problems just keep mounting and I am burning bridges left and right. Knowing they will come back to bite we you know where later.
sigh~
Well I was like these other ladies and feeling bad for you UNTIL I read your Massage Envy post….and well…what happened??? Go back for another massage and calm down….easier said than done, I know! I totally want a “pamper me” day but then the day after will be just like yours…so I do actually feel bad for you just wanted to give you a hard time!!
Things will get better…have faith and have fun!
You poor thing~! Don’t you worry you little head over it cause that is what us Mainer’s here call a melt down and if you have only had one or two and your about to turn 40 then your doing just fine
I’m about to turn 45 and I have had 2 melt downs in the past month lol. You see your one of those people that hold it all in until it builds up and builds up and then you melt down which is perfectly normal. My son graduates in 4 days and I am a basket case~!! not to mention I’m having major health problems that I won’t get into plus family stress , plus money stress, you name it so I know just how you felt and what happened. You just tell your hubby that your ok and he can expect you to do that every year or so lol oh and that he did just what he needed to do “LISTEN” and let you vent to get it of your chest. In a few weeks things will be back to normal and your wonderful ole self. Don’t even get me starting on those GPS systems lol I spent an hour going the wrong way on a freeway once because it malfunctioned ~!!!! May your tomorrow be sunny and bright 
Yep, I think everything happens for a reason too. It probably happened because you needed to vent and that venting needed to be with your spouse first. It isn’t good for your health to keep it all in and you had been, so it probably happened so it would come out and you could move forward.
It’s nice that you’re husband was quite at first and then asked if you were okay. My hubby would have been saying “Calm down already, don’t bust a gasket.” Which would have made me madder. Yet, somehow your husband had the foresight to know you just needed a little space and then some genuine concern. Good for him.
Good for you too about making some business decisions that will be for your benefit.
Twitter: Jentifa
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Thank you all for the kind and encouraging words. I feel so much better since I vented and wrote about it. I loved all your responses and you all made me laugh at myself even more
Thanks, I needed that!!!
found your site on del.icio.us today and really liked it.. i bookmarked it and will be back to check it out some more later
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re: turning 40 next year – the 40s will be good years, and the 50s will be even better. Trust me on this!
I’ve been where you are right now, and know how stressful it can be. Things will get better, just you wait and see